So I'm writing this post because I have been feeling really proud of myself lately for all the little accomplishments in my life (I know, your face is that emoji shocked face right now because it sounds super braggy). We are taught not to toot our own horns, But y'all.... TOOT away! That's my motto. OK maybe not under the covers after eating Italian, but you know what I mean. We are taught not to be braggy and not to boast. But sometimes I almost think we go too far. It's like you can't ever even admit that you've busted your *ss on something. Like, "oh no, really, it was nothing" is the only acceptable response to a compliment these days. Well that's hogwash. You get to be proud of yourself sometimes- especially since the majority of the time you probably walk around feeling like you're constantly falling short. You can be proud of accomplishments that might seem silly to other people- even stupid and useless. In fact, you get to be proud. Because if it means something to you. If it matters or has purpose in your life- then it's not stupid.
I just think that these days, we tend to set the bar for success (in our own minds) so high that we end up feeling like we are always falling short. More often than not, I'm making a list ten miles long about all the things I need to work on and all the things I wish I wasn't. I'm too this or too that or not enough this and not enough that. It's easy to make a long list of short-comings, but can you make a long list of your greatest successes? Do you talk about things you are proud of with you kids? I think you should because I think it's important that kids know that you have the right to be proud of the "little" accomplishments too. They matter too. Success in life is not just about the big moments that deserve a round of applause before an audience. It's all the little things that make you who you are. It's not simply about having the right diplomas on your wall, the highest salary, or the fittest body. It's not always the things that people can see.
So, I've accomplished a few things in my life thus far that I should and could be proud of. Things like earning a masters degree. But, you know what? It wasn't my proudest moment actually. It felt great, don't get me wrong. But most of all, I think I was just glad I'd proved so many people wrong- people that joked in a "friendly" way about my "blonde" ways and said things like, since I married a lawyer, I wouldn't need a masters degree. Ouch. I can take a good teasing like the best of 'em but sometimes a joke is so long-running in one's life that it begins to feel like a truth.
Thankfully, I graduated with a perfect 4.0 with my Masters in Adolescence Education specializing in Mathematics as well as earned my Gifted and Talented endorsement (certification for working with gifted children). I. wrote. A 31 page paper on a single trig math problem. ME! That was a proud moment y'all... it was awesome and I've never regretted it for one second. I feel pride in my heart for those accomplishments. I have stretch marks on my brain from those accomplishments. But ya'll, that proud moment was more for them. Do you know what I mean when I say that?
So here I am. Keeping it real and laying it out there. I've made my list of (maybe weird to you, but amazing to me) things that I'm super proud of. Things that you might not think are so impressive. But you know what- I don't care. I'm finally reaching a place in my life where I get to celebrate these things and I won't apologize for it. I've learned that life is just waaaaay too short to spend your time worrying about what other people think of you. They don't get to decide whether you get to be proud or not. You do. So here it goes y'all..
1. I can give a damn decent haircut, I've been cutting my husband's hair since 2007. Had no idea what I was doing then, but I was determined to learn. Now I can do whatever cut he requests- no appointment necessary. I taught myself in seventh grade how to do highlites with foils too. Just ask my sorority sisters. I'm good.
2. I'm really freaking proud that I taught myself how to mow, edge, and landscape our yard. When the hubbs gets super busy at work, he just has no time to get it done. So I started with weeding, then mulch, edging (totally addicting), and now I'm mowing in.... wait for it.... diagonals. Oh the joy it brings me to see all those beautiful angles. Sigh.
3. Can we talk about angles again? I'm sorry, but I'm really proud of these diagonals too. I painted the "back-splash" of the shelves in my living room almost 5 years ago. Still love it. Did it all with painters tape and paint. Eye-balled the angles. Yes, I taught geometry, but still...
4. I actually take off my cover-up at the pool. I throw on my fave trendy suit and I do not care that my body's not perfect. I'm 150+ lbs. and only 5'5'' but the fact that I'm not a size zero doesn't keep me from enjoying the pool with my honey bunny. Because life... is too short guys. Put on the dang suit and go. And when you get out there and you have fun- be proud of yourself because that's something a LOT of women cannot do.
5. And last but certainly not least, I'm proud of my struggle to become a mommy. I'm proud of myself for having the strength to be open- well I had no choice, but y'all just have no idea ok. It was THE. HARDEST. thing. I've ever done. Like. Ever.No seriously. Ever. The pain of it all was excruciating and feeling so incredibly exposed was the worst. I had not even swallowed the bitter pill of the news that I could not carry a child and I yet was having to go public with the news that I was expecting via gestational carrier. It was like being dragged through the mud. But- I'm stronger in every single way. And in September when my Infertility support group kicks off for year number 2- I could not be prouder.
Ultimately, I want my daughter to know that she gets to be proud of the little things too- ok so maybe not super braggy and annoying. But in her head, she gets to be, and should be- proud of the little things. The weird things- the things that matter to her. Because ultimately, once it's all said and done- it's your life to live- not anyone else's. So make sure you are busy building a life that you are proud of-you will never. be sorry.
What are you proud of? Share share!!! Please share!