How much time do you spend looking in the mirror at your face?OK. I ask because I have a few theories on that. It says something about where your head's at. I think it says a little something about your overall emotional health. I'm specifically focusing on two types of mirror lookers.
1) The One-&-Done Mirror Looker- this person prefers not to look at themselves at all or see themselves ever unless absolutely necessary. They do not care about whether they are sporting the newest makeup trend or if their hair needs a trim. They really only check the mirror to make sure they will not horrify the public or call any attention at all to themselves. No bleeding zits? Check. No food on their face? Check. These people have convinced themselves that there is nothing they could do to their EXTERIOR that might improve the way they feel inside. Yes. Please read that sentence again. Is this you???
The second type of "mirror looker" that I am going to address today is called the Obsessive Mirror Looker
2) The Obsessive Mirror Looker- this person looks in every mirror they come across. They know and obsess over every imperfection on their face and body and usually wear exactly the same makeup every day and have worn it that way for years, maybe decades. This person's makeup is their armor in this big bad world. They are searching for control. They need to tweeze, pencil in, cover up, blend, foundation, powder, highlight, and shine/de-shine everything. They can barely function when they have a large zit and they have a pile of face creams, serums, and gels to avoid the dreaded wrinkle, age spot, or dry patch. If they are not busy layering on makeup to HIDE their natural looks, they are slathering on face creams to CHANGE their "natural" look.
Both types of mirror lookers need balance in their mirror-looking lives. That's where I come in. Feeling that insecure about your face is a horrible place to be. We have DONE the anguished teenager thing and worried about our faces already ladies. Enough. We are ADULTS now and we get to rock these imperfect faces making zero apologies.
Here's the best part. No matter WHAT the Kardashians might tell you, you do not need airbrushed makeup, lip implants, cheek fillers, botox, laser resurfacing, or face creams that cost thousands of dollars. So what IS the secret to aging gracefully and wearing a daily makeup that makes you feel confident but doesn't take an hour to apply you ask?
Actually, I think it's kind of simple. I truly believe that learning to love your face AS IS, is the most beneficial thing you can do for your life in this moment. I know you're rolling your eyes right now, like come on. What a load!
But bear with me. Why do dark spots on our faces have to be so dreaded? Why are wrinkles so embarrassing? Aren't we lucky that we GET to age? Why is it bad to be unique??? I think we need to rethink this whole idea of what our faces are "supposed" to look like.
I think we need to find a happy medium here ladies. We need to use makeup that aims to accentuate the favorite parts of our faces and not worry so much about hiding the things that make us who we are.
My fave makeup routine focuses on the eyes. This makeup literally takes me the duration of one song. Yes, you should listen to music when putting on makeup. Music makes people happy and happy people do better makeup. Usually rap. Most often a Drake song, maybe the Post Malone song Better Now. But the point is, makeup should take no more than 5 minutes to apply. IF you are painting your face like pottery for an hour, you are doing this thing all wrong. You need a therapist. Not a makeup tutorial. You are beautiful as you are. Think ENHANCE, not COVER.
Step one- BROWS Avoid over-plucking your brows, it makes you look older and more psychotic. A few strays is just fine. Stop obsessing. Pencil in a light brow pencil (not too dark because too dark=psycho) and brush eyebrows upward. Do not overdo it, you do not want to look like an angry bird.
Step two- LASHES Curl your eye lashes people. You guys, please tell me you have tried an eyelash curler before? It takes less than 5 seconds to do it and the results are mesmer-eye-zing. I have been asked so many time if I'm wearing fake lashes. Nope. A lash curl will. change. the. trajectory. of. your. entire. life. I'm absolutely positive of this fact. In fact in high school I once answered the question, "what is the one thing you would bring with you from a burning building..." Well, yes. I said my eye lash curler. I'm not that ashamed of it either. So obviously after you curl, you need to add some light mascara. I love Maybeline Lash Stiletto waterproof mascara. After you curl, just swipe a few times starting at the lash line, then finish by dabbing the wand across the ends of the lashes to coat the ends. And Voila. Mesmer- eye-zing!
Step three- EYELINER This step is actually not necessary. You can just stop after lashes and brows, but if you want to kick it up a notch and have an extra 5 seconds per eye, I highly recommend it. I like to use a pencil because the liquid stuff can get messy and it takes longer to get it just right. Start your eyeliner mid-lash line to make your eyes look bigger and bring it out to the outer corner, smudge with your finger to give it a more blended look. Finish with a light stroke or two of natural-looking brown eye shadow on the lid only, or skip eye shadow- I usually skip it. You can also sipe some light bronzy blush on the apples of your cheeks to give some color to your face- Voila! Done in less than 3 minutes!
Remember that the key to a beautiful daily makeup look, should be to ENHANCE your natural beauty. Embrace those imperfections on your face and enhance those features that you love with a simple makeup look.
Here is my mama. She is my makeup inspiration and my age-gracefully idol. She has never had botox, fillers, face lift, face bleach- y'all nothing. And she looks GORGEOUS. Her freckles and spots make her look even more perfect! Her wrinkles are perfectly placed and she's not HIDING any of it. She's enhancing it all with minimal makeup. Mom, might kill me later for posting this pic, but I think it perfectly demonstrates my point. Looking great Mama! And Mamas out there, may we remember those little eyes that are always watching you. Show them that you never have to feel like you need to HIDE what you look like.
So your mission is to think about this post. Reflect on which type of mirror looker you might be. Could you feel even better about yourself by enhancing a few things? Or do you need to tone it down and stop covering up, and start enhancing? Remember, above all, the sooner you can begin to make peace with and embrace the imperfections on your beautiful face, the more graceful and lovely you will become to everyone you meet.