Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like & celebrating it for everything that it is. - Mandy Hale
Can I get an Amen ladies? Let's be honest, as kids we probably all had these ideas of what our lives would be like as adults. And then there's... Reality. As a child you feel like you have so much power over your future. You can be anything! My parents taught me to dream big and they encouraged my aspirations all along the way. I felt as though there were these rules in life that if followed carefully, would ensure that my future would turn out exactly as I'd imagined. And then... there's Reality.
But don't you think we need to be more honest and open about these things? So many women are walking around feeling alone because even though this is the era of reality TV and Caitlyn Jenner (whom I love and do not apologize for that), there is still a stigma out there that life is so... effortlessly easy.
I remember being worried when at 24 years old, I had not even met the man I'd marry (I know sounds ridiculous now). It just wasn't how I'd imagined it somehow. I thought by 25 I'd be married for sure! But then I wasn't. And it didn't help that my sister and mom were both married at twenty- damn-four! Like whaaaaaat?!
And I remember the second time life was like, PLOT TWIST! When after years of planning the exact date that we would conceive, we found out that I couldn't even carry a baby! Please just blow. my. mind. I mean seriously! I had imagined having four kids and I loved the pregnancy idea for some weird reason. I thought it would be like this magical moment in time when my hair would be shiny, my skin would glow, and my belly would be like this basketball under my shirt. And then it was like, errrrrrrrrrrrk (sound of a record scratching) when we got the bad news. You mean my life.... will not be.... what I thought....?
And of course there was more to it. I was filled with guilt because I wondered if my husband would have married me had he known this, and my poor sister volunteering to carry our baby. I was a burden on everyone! And to make matters worse, it was incredibly lonely. Nobody talks about having problems getting pregnant. It seemed like everyone I knew was either "ooopsie" pregnant or "Oh my gawsh, the first time we tried!" Ugh. Eye roll.
But, my point is, that every. single. woman. that you know is fighting a battle. There is not one person on this earth that can escape the many plot twists in this life. In case you didn't know yet, you are not in charge here. Sometimes, life just happens. Exactly. The. Way. It. Should.
I know it's hard to trust that and always have peace with that. But know this, you are not alone and whatever plot twist you are encountering in this life will bring you to exactly the place in which you were meant to be. You will find your strength in the storm and you will learn that sometimes the things that we cannot change in this life, end up changing us. And for the better.
So next time you log into Facebook and see all these beautiful family photos with smiling faces, hair blowing in the wind, and coordinating outfits, remind yourself that nobody is perfect. There is no such thing. Embrace your perfectly imperfect life for all that it is, because there is a lot of beauty in it, just. as. it. is.